Tuesday, September 16, 2008

My daughter's going to juvie


I am at my wit's end. My littlest one, Carly, is on a fast-track to pre-school juvie! She has become what I have feared most--a bully! (At right is a picture of her in her panty do-rag, ready for lock-up.)

My daycare provider called me today to let me know that Carly was on a bullying rampage, taking out every baby who got in her way. After being sent to the "Time Out Chair" on several occasions for pinching, poking and swatting at other kids, she did the unthinkable--she forcefully pushed a little guy, still getting used to his sea legs, into a cubby with both hands, resulting in the dreaded Incident Report.

OMG! What has gotten into my little angel? She has always been stubborn and headstrong, always trying to keep up with her older brother and sister and never shying away from letting us know when she's unhappy, but it's just lately that she has been resorting to biting, pinching and hitting.

She is two, but my other children never behaved this way. In fact, she's been biting, hitting and pushing them, too. They are almost afraid of her. Is it Little Sister Syndrome? Is she frustrated because she has trouble using her words to tell us what's bothering her? I just don't know.

My daycare provider is going to consult a Behavioral Therapist and ask her for advice on "re-directing" Carly. Does she need therapy? For the most part, she is a happy, loving little girl. It's just at odd moments she gets a wild hair up her Pull-up and acts out.

I hate to think she's becoming the Preschool Pariah and that I'm going to have to lower my head in shame at drop-off and pick-up while enduring knowing, disapproving glances from the other parents. I don't want her to get the reputation of being a miscreant--that's a hard rap to shake at any age.

Does anyone have any suggestions on how to handle my little girl before she spirals out of control and winds up in military preschool?

7 comments:

kristleharrison said...

Oh my..
I have no advice.. just wanted to let you know that I think Maysen is following closely behind her! He's a little meany! Cooper is constantly coming to me telling me that Maysen hit him or threw something at him.. And he's only 16 mos!!
So, I feel your pain Mama.. only my kid doesn't beat up on other ppl's kids.. hehe..

kristleharrison said...

Oh, and BTW.. I just love her panty do-rag.. She's gonna hate you for that picture later in life! LMAO

Suzi Homemaker said...

Well, I had a talk with the little lass yesterday and told her she couldn't continue on the same path--in kid terminology, of course. She said, "okay." Today was a better day--she only pinched someone. Maybe she's acting out because her Daddy's been away so much...? I don't know...do your boys wear skivvies on their heads? It's a big thing in our household...

kristleharrison said...

It could possibly be because Daddy's away so much..
And yeah.. I often catch Maysen with my skivvies on his head.. hehe.. or his Daddy's.. Clean of course! ;D
I hope your little talk helped! :)

christi said...

What's wrong with military preschool? You should see the square corners on Jack's trundle bed. Really impressive! Just kidding...but really, I think Carly is upset she forgot your birthday last week. She's acting out.

Suzi Homemaker said...

Christi - Steve brought home KFC last night for dinner and while we were eating he said, "So how do you like your birthday dinner?"

So nice to see you here...when are you going to take the plunge and start a blog of your own? I told you it's very therapeutic...

*Heather* said...

heehee sorry to hear that. I have a daycare in my house (as you know) & it's sad MY baby is the bully here, but I hear it's normal your child will act out most in your home. someday's she's an angel & the next mean mean mean. BUT it's getting less & less now. I have found the more attention she gets the more it's getting less & less. Maybe she's thriving for attention in daycare she's not getting? I know that seems to be the culprit around here. Now about the panties on the head. Aaliyah LOVES IT and says it's FUNNY PANTIES ON LIYAS HEAD (lol) too fun!